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Must a Pastor Be Married? The New York Times Asks the Question
March 25, 2011
The New York Times has asked the question. How would you answer it?
March 5, 2010
Permanence Before Experience: The Wisdom of Marriage
The onslaught of modernity has challenged basic assumptions about marriage that existed merely decades ago. Instead of marriage being the beginning of the permanence of experience between a man and woman, many couples are opting to experience permanence before marriage. This trial before error approach to marriage is pervading the West. On today’s show, Dr….
Permanence Before Experience — The Wisdom of Marriage
March 2, 2010
Rightly understood, marriage is all about permanence. In a world of transitory experiences, events, and commitments, marriage is intransigent. It simply is what it is — a permanent commitment made by a man and a woman who commit themselves to live faithfully unto one another until the parting of death.
December 4, 2009
Is Living Together Really a Big Deal?
Is living together really such a big deal? In a post-modern culture, where people don’t really believe in the institution of marriage, is there any reason for couples to wait for the benefits of living together? As Dr. Mohler notes on today’s program, the Church must be careful to address the depth of people’s sin. …
October 30, 2009
Getting Ready to Get Ready for Marriage
How can young people prepare themselves for marriage? On today’s program, Dr. Mohler discusses the things people can do to make sure they are readying themselves for marriage. Lisa Anderson and Steve Waters of Boundless.org, join Dr. Mohler to address the need for intentionality in the relationships young people pursue. Marriage is certainly something that should…
August 3, 2009
Waiting Too Long for Marriage
Young Christians are waiting a long time to marry. Is this a good idea? What keeps young people who are committed to honoring the Lord, from marrying those they fall in love with? Listen as Dr. Mohler discusses the shift in culture from marrying your sweet-heart young, to a prolonged, single, long-term dating society. The…
The Case for (Early) Marriage
August 3, 2009
Shifts in a culture are often signaled by unexpected developments that represent far more than may first meet the eye. The cover story in the August 2009 edition of Christianity Today may signal such a shift among American evangelicals. In this case the cultural shift is nothing less than an awakening to the priority of marriage. At the very least, it represents a public airing of the question of the delay of marriage among evangelical young people. In that sense, it is a bombshell.
March 20, 2009
The Delay of Marriage and the Decline of Church Attendance
W. Bradford Wilcox of the University of Virginia has written a must-read article in the “Houses of Worship” column of The Wall Street Journal. Wilcox considers the impact of the expansion of the government sector in American society, concluding that as the “welfare state” expands, the church recedes as the source of needed charity and…
“Boundless” Interview by Podcast
March 6, 2009
Boundless is a magnificent e-magazine and resource from Focus on the Family. I recently talked to friends at Boundless when I was in Colorado Springs, and I recorded an interview with them that is available here. As always, it was great to talk with these creative young Christians. Check out the resources for college students, young adults, and others at Boundless.
Marriage Going Out of Style?
November 14, 2006
“The bottom line is that a heavily married society is a whole lot better off than one that’s not,” says David Popenoe, a professor of sociology at Rutger’s University and co-director of the National Marriage Project.
Popenoe’s statement should be read in light of sensationalistic media reports about the demise of marriage. Those reports were sparked by a U.S. Census Bureau report released just weeks ago. [See previous article here.]
Reporter John Johnson of The Cincinnati Enquirer took a look at the data in a front -page aricle published Sunday. His article is, in general, a fair overrview of the current status of marriage.
First he states the problem:
The National Marriage Project says the median age at first marriage went from 20 for females and 23 for males in 1960 to about 26 and 27, respectively, in 2005, the Marriage Project says.
Other reasons the National Marriage Project cites for declining marriage rates: the growing acceptance of unmarried cohabitation; a small decrease in the tendency of divorced people to remarry; and “some increase” in lifelong singlehood, although the actual amount of the latter won’t be known until the lives of young and middle-age adults run their course.
Unmarried cohabitation is particularly popular among people who’ve come from divorced-parent homes, says David Popenoe, a professor of sociology at Rutgers and co-director of the National Marriage Project.
Why would the children of divorce be more inclined to co-habitation? Johnson answers: “They’ve seen their parents divorce, and that’s the last thing they want to go through themselves.”
The most interesting part of the article is the statement by Popenoe to the effect that “a heavily married society is a whole lot better off than one that’s not. That is a fascinating argument, and one that can be related to so many different fronts of the marriage question. A “heavily married society” should be a goal of social policy and cultural expectation. The alternative is a society in which marriage is effectively marginalized.

